Stop Explaining Yourself!
“Some people are genuinely worried that if they don’t explain themselves very well, they might be perceived as “indifferent” or just as someone who cares very little about others. The reality is that in many cases the “over explaining” makes you not only look very insecure but also laowers your self esteem at the same time.”
Dan wanted to be very sensitive to others.
His mother taught him to consider other
people’s feelings.
“I thought everything was great until I met
Jane, she was amazing, she was 16, just the
girl I always wanted in my life, but then she
started pulling away.
Why “over explaining” is a major self-esteem issue and how to monitor it.
it. When I asked why she was suddenly keeping
her distance from me, she said she felt that I
worry too much about everyone else.
When I asked my mom about it, she said I
should not worry about what other “selfish
jerks” think and just be myself.
I was 15, I was sad but wanted to believe it
wasn’t my fault.
At the age of 21, I was promoted to assistant
manager at the local hardware store.